Let's be honest, we all want our children to get along perfectly with our friend's children and their playmates. Unfortunately, that's not always the case. Children between the ages of 2 to 5 initially have trouble playing well with others and it's very common for some children to not learn how to share until they are 3 or 4. At these ages, children still believe that everything is "mine" and while they may enjoy being together with other children at times, they're often not ready to handle all the newness of relationships
No one wants their kid to be hurting others, but there are some behaviors that we tend to forgive a little easier in toddlerhood, and that includes hitting and biting. Social interactions this can be accepted! They must be able to play with other kids, whether it's an incidental game at the park with another child they've just met or a pre-arranged play date between peers. It teaches social skills, like empathy, and broadens your child's world. Toddlers find it challenging to play with others until they are around two years old so don't expect them to share and always play nicely!
Here are some tips that may help with your bossy little bully:
1. Teach positive replacement behavior: Instead of getting upset when your kiddo is being unfriendly show them positivity. Then it shows them you have a positive response to a negative situation. After all you are their role models. Reassure them that not everyone agrees or will like what they like. It's completely normal to disagree. They do not understand others have opinions yet. When this happens to Bastian I just get him to laugh first to stop focusing on crying. Once he stops crying he is clear in his thoughts and can listen to my words instead of being controlled by his emotions. Makes it much easier when both parties are calm.
2. Playing nice deserves a award: When they actually share with others or put their feelings or likes aside it deserves to be praised. Make sure this isn't the only time to praise so they don't fake it. Lots will play nice in your face but mean when you are not present. Make them understand that they don't only need to do this to please you but it makes better friends or make others want to play with them more. You will have to repeat this over and over again to make this stick you know the drill.
3. Don't let the bully win: You want to believe your kid isn't the bully or the one being mean. But let's face these little assholes have disappointed you more before. It's great to teach them to be strong and stand up for themselves but we always need them to learn what's the difference in standing up for ones self and being a bitch! lol
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